Counseling Approaches With Love And Relationships
Counselor Approaches With Love And Relationship Issues
Course Study Description
CCEUS06 - Counselor Approaches With Love And Relationship Issues [10 contact hours] - [$50.00 - NO OTHER COURSE FEES APPLY] A cognitive approach to the problems that surround the romantic relationships is the focus of this course. People experiment with affairs of the heart only to be tossed about time and again by feelings they barely understand or can cope with. Their emotional investment into dating, falling in love, and marrying is just as real as any other set of emotions that permeate their lives. These ups and downs in the arena of love can crowd other things out of their lives leading to the development of anger, depression, irritability, anxiety, substance abuse, and even suicide. This course, from a Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy point of view, seeks to outline for the counselor fresh cognitively-based strategies for success in dealing with the romance concerns of clients. These may include the difference between preferences versus demands; the distinction between judging traits and outcomes and judging people; getting rid of the upset rather than just expressing upsetting feelings; learning that relationships do not disturb people [people disturb themselves]; the world is never going to be fair; change in thinking is the effective problem-solving model; emotional self-control strategies for young people; beliefs about others; techniques to argue against irrational love beliefs; rejection is not self rejection; putting yourself first; the differences between health and unhealthy love relationships; love and the core irrational beliefs; and teaching recovery. REBT is a teaching therapy that shows clients ways to change their dysfunctional thinking in this area and realistically examine how they are upsetting themselves.
Course Directions
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Course Outcomes
As a result of the work in this course, the counselor / student will:
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learn the six facts about men, women, and marriage. |
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understand the difference between marital dissatisfaction and marital disturbances. |
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be aware of the behaviors and attitudes that destroy marriages. |
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discover some preliminary tips to winning cooperation in a marriage. |
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understand some of the key points about marriage that stand as principles of understanding for a counselor. |
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discover the ABC's of emotional disturbance. |
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understand the sever problematic styles of thinking that affect marriages and relationships. |
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understand how to become an undisturbable person. |
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discover what are rational coping statements. |
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understand some of the basic principles of communication in marriage. |
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learn the 8 cardinal communication sins in marriage and relationships. |
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discover the basics of attractive communication behaviors in marriage and relationships. |
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learn four major techniques to reduce conflict during discussions in marriage and relationships. |
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understand the 8 attractive behaviors to improving marriage and relationships. |
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learn 16 strategies to pleasing a spouse or partner. |
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learn what are the four basic ground rules for conflict resolution. |
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understand the five steps to conflict resolution in a marriage or relationships. |
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understand basic clinical guidelines in working with couples. |
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develop a few clinical counseling considerations concerning the major concepts in this course. |
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learn the major tenets of REBT in regard to relationship building. |
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discover that humor plays an important role in relationship problem solving. |
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understand that couples may go down separate blind alleys in trying to form a better intimate relationship. |
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learn how to cultivate common aims in a relationship. |
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understand how to criticize sparingly and showing respect for a partner's vulnerabilities. |
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learn how to weave rational philosophy into everyday thinking about love and relationships. |
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know the difference between love and need. |
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know how to use rational self-statements to avoid the misery loves company trap. |
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understand why using the hard side of love usually makes things easier. |
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learn what is meant by "hit below the belt" in relationships. |
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know the hazards of mind-reading in relationships. |
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learn the negatives of finger-pointing in relationships. |
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understand why score-keeping detracts from a relationships. |
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learn that backhanded compliments usually have a calculated hostile intent. |
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understanding the cost of avoiding conflict at all costs. |
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understand the hazards of the one and only syndrome. |
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learn how to propose workable compromises. |
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understand how to give "no" as an answer. |
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know the difference between loving yourself and accepting yourself. |
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understanding the 29 paradoxes of dating and mating. |
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understand how to maintain and sustain love while bridging compatibility gaps. |
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learn the use of apology as a correction measure in relationships. |
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understand possessiveness and its paradoxical effects. |
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understand the differences between fault and blame in a relationship. |
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understand reasonable love expectations in a relationship. |
Text [Required Reading To Be Prepared For The Exam]
Head Over Heart In Love: 25 Guides To Rational Passion by Bill Borcherdt ISBN 1568870175 $16.95 and Men Are From Earth, Women Are From Earth: A Guide To Winning Cooperation From Your Spouse by Kenneth Wenning ISBN 0765701022 $15.95 on The Bookstore Page.
Study Guide Questions
Name the six major facts about men, women, and marriage.
Differentiate between marital dissatisfaction and marital disturbance.
Outline some of the behaviors and attitudes that destroy marriages.
Outline some useful trips to winning cooperation in a marriage.
Describe the ABC's of emotional disturbance.
Outline seven problematic styles of thinking that affect marriages and relationships.
How does one become an undisturbable person?
Outline the basics of communication in a marriage.
What are the 8 cardinal communication sins in marriage and relationships.
What are the basics of attractive communication behavior?
Outline the four major techniques to reduce conflict during discussions in marriage and relationships.
What are some attractive behaviors that improve marriage and relationships.
List 16 strategies to please a spouse or partner.
Describe the basic ground rules that are in conflict resolution.
What are the 5 steps in conflict resolution in marriage and relationships.
Outline the basic clinical guidelines in working with couples.
Outline the major tenets of REBT in regard to relationship building.
What role does humor play in relationship building?
How does one cultivate common aims in a relationship?
What is the difference between love and need?
How does one use rational self-statements?
Describe the hard side of love and its usefulness in relationship problems.
What is meant by "hit below the belt?"
What is mind reading and why is it important?
Describe what would be workable compromises.
List the 29 paradoxes of dating and mating.
How do people maintain and sustain love while bridging the compatibility gap?
What role does apology play in a relationship?
Describe possessiveness and its paradoxical effects.
Differentiate between fault and blame.
What are appropriate love expectations in a relationship?
Vocabulary
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marital dissatisfaction |
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marital disturbance |
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blaming |
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the silent treatment |
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ABC's |
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REBT |
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activating events |
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rational beliefs |
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irrational beliefs |
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beliefs |
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emotional consequences |
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behavioral consequences |
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demandingness |
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awfulizing |
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low frustration tolerance |
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self-rating |
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I cant stand itis |
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catastrophizing |
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black / white thinking |
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tunnel vision |
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always / never thinking |
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rational coping statements |
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threats |
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dredging up the past |
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personal attacks |
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minimizing |
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guilt trips |
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changing the topic |
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emotional abandonment |
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zapping |
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active listening |
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"I" statements |
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conflict resolution |
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action plan |
Examination
The examination for this course is attached to this page. PRINT OUT THE EXAM. All examinations consist of both True-False and/or Multiple-Choice items with five answers. You must score 80% on the exam to gain the contact hours. When you have printed the exam, read each question carefully, choose the BEST answer and circle the letter of the answer you choose. Return the exam by mail to Dr. Budd A. Moore, Exam Scoring At CounselingCEUsOnline along with the signed Honor Pledge and a check or money order for $36.00 payable to Dr. Budd A. Moore. The exam and the honor pledge can also be faxed to our office at 1(717)597-2302; however, it will not be scored until the scoring fee is paid in full. When the fee and all of the materials are received, the exam will be scored within 48 hours. Results will be e-mailed to you as soon as they are available. A letter of congratulations, a certificate from CounselingCEUsOnline, and an official transcript will be mailed to you. Examinations will not be returned to the student. Records of your scores will be maintained by CounselingCEUsOnline and will be available for you for a $5.00 transcript fee.
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